But if asking for help is a common difficulty (among certain personality types at least), I wonder if paying for help is a peculiar difficulty for the British. Friends who are affluent enough to afford it are sometimes amazed at how much I will pay for yoga classes or a private lesson, for physio consultations, dental work, haircuts and so on. I prefer to think of these as investments in myself. Well not the haircuts maybe, unless I had an important professional gig on where appearance mattered (and to be frank my professional life is just not that glamorous!). I’m not made of money, but seeking good professional support for the things that matter to me seems a no brainer. Perhaps in Britain free healthcare has lulled us into a feeling that advice (and anything relating to health and wellbeing) should be free?
Hmm political and controversial. So back to the yoga:
I booked my mum a private yoga session with her one-time teacher. She used to go to a class, but she stopped after a while. I think she found it intimidating being called out in class by name when the teacher offered verbal instruction. She didn’t see it as attention to her wellbeing. To her it felt like censure. So I’m hoping that a more intimate setting might allow her to develop a different relationship with her teacher and with yoga. Perhaps it could enable her to see that correction is not criticism, and hopefully give her the confidence to return to class. She clearly misses yoga. I hope I’m empowering her, not steamrollering her. I’m very aware this isn’t a step she’d have taken on her own (for whatever reason).